Not all Guys are like that

At 15 a boy told me that if I really liked him, I’d fool around with him. Afterwards, he said he only saw me as a friend, but we should still have sex sometime. But not all guys are like that. My first time going to a nightclub, I was pushed into dancing with a…

On the Limits of ‘Yes means Yes’ Campaigns

Talking about consent, as well as rape culture, is incredibly important. According to the Dublin Rape Crisis Centre, 1 in 5 women and 1 in 10 men will experience sexual assault in their lifetime. There have been many attempts to raise awareness and attempts to prevent sexual assault and rape. Sex positive feminism’s ‘Yes means…

On STI Check-Ups

Today, I had my first STI check-up. And yeah, I know how bad it is that I’m 21 and, after 4 years of being sexually active, am only having my first set of STI tests done now. But, like a lot of young people, I was terrified of the thought of them, and was under…

On Feminist Selfies

‘Selfie’ is the official Oxford Dictionary Word of the Year 2013. And according to the sometimes-alright-but-mostly-incredibly-narrow-minded-and-the-epitome-of-‘white-feminism’ site that is Jezabel, selfies aren’t empowering, but rather a cry for help. While there’s some merit to what they have to say – that selfies teach young girls in particular that their looks are incredibly important – they…

How We Prevent Sexual Assault Simply Isn’t Working

*Trigger warnings: rape, rape culture, sexual assault* Last week, the Royal College of Physicians of Ireland hosted a series of talks and workshops to mark National Sexual Health Awareness Week. I had the privilege of attending the talk on sexual assault called ‘Preventing violence: From Information to Transformation’, given by ClÍona Saidlear of the Rape…

On Irish Abortion Legislation and ‘Lapgate’

Last night, after a 21 year long wait, X-case legislation was passed in the Dáil at 127 to 31. However, it’s not law yet – it still has to go through the Seanad and the President’s office. While this is a momentous occasion in Irish history, and a step in the right direction for women*’s…

On the ‘Rally for Life’

Today, I went to the counter protest for this year’s Rally for Life, despite really not being in the mood for it and the heat being something terrible for a stereotypical pale Irish women like myself (my foundation shade is ‘Siberia’. Wish I was kidding). Unlike the anti-Youth Defence protest which I went to last…

On Elevatorgate

A friend asked me on twitter why women often feel uncomfortable at purely atheist/secular conferences, and then remembered the Richard Dawkins – Rebecca Watson ‘elevatorgate’ from 2011.   At an atheist conference, Watson had been talking about how shitty it is that women get sexualised at conferences like this. She was then hit on by…